Questions and answers about mental health and conditions, such as depression, bipolar, ADD-ADHD, schizophrenia, and others
Asked in Mental Health, ADD-ADHD, Symptoms, Concerta
What are the symptoms of ADHD?
Symptoms include: Often fidgeting with hands or feet, or squirming while seated. Having difficulty remaining seated. Having difficulty awaiting turn in games or group activities. Often blurting out answers before questions are completed. Having difficulty in following instructions. Having difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities. Often shifting from one uncompleted task to another. Having difficulty playing quietly. Often talking excessively. Often interrupting or intruding on others. Often not listening to what is being said. Often forgetting things necessary for tasks or activities. Often engaging in physically dangerous activities without considering possible consequences. Being easily distracted by extraneous stimuli. Often fails to give close attention to details. Often makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities. Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities. Often becomes easily distracted by irrelevant sights, sounds and extraneous stimuli. Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace. Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities. Often avoids tasks, such as schoolwork or homework, that require sustained mental effort. Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities, like school assignments, pencils, books, or tools. Often is forgetful in daily activities. Rarely follows instructions carefully and completely. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly. Often show little or no restrain in controlling their emotions Often becomes immersed in an activity they enjoy Attention Deficit Disorder, or ADD, is hard to define due to the fact it encompasses so many differing symptoms. The common traits are usually difficulty to pay attention due to being distracted easily, forgetfulness, inability to process future implications of actions and low or underweight, lean bodies. In some cases, though, instead of distractions being harder to avoid, people will hyperfocus, or not be aware of anything at all but what they are doing, and oftentimes obsess when making conversation. Many cases are in between. The problem falls in the fact that it encompasses such a wide range, there are intermediate cases and unique cases. A link between add and children's depression is theorized due to medications that treat add sometimes causing depression. It also goes the other way around. Hope this helps, and for more information try finding a good psychologist or psychiatrist and ask if you think you may have it. ADD is when you cant focus and you don't pay attention all the time when you are suppose to. your mind wanders all the time and you can hardly sit still. you space out a lot more then normal and you have a hard time keeping friends. Impatiences also is very common. Here are people answering and sharing their experiences about ADD: I always had a hard time keeping my house clean and organized. I was always cleaning but not getting much done. You know, cleaning in one room and having to go to another room for something and then start cleaning in there...etc...etc...before you know it, not much of anything is done. One day I just said forget it. The messier it got, the more depressed I got and was totally unable to do any cleaning because of the disorganization. I found that if you have ADD, its best to rid of all clutter and I mean all. It makes a world of difference. I told my mom about this, about how it's hard for me to clean because it's so "confusing" and she laughed. She can laugh all she wants cause she has it too, but won't admit to it. My dad used to ask me if I was doing drugs, which I wasn't. I will turn on the news to watch the weather only to find myself watching the sports since I had "taken a mind trip" for about 15 minutes. This happens quite frequently. I can even think about the fact that I may do this when I turn on the news so I try to pay attention and It still happens. It's crazy! I make lists for everything too but can't find them most of the time. For years I purchased over the counter ephedrine at the gas stations. This made me feel as normal as possible. I didn't know that I had ADD but I knew that I was different from most others and often have a hard time keeping friends, boyfriends, jobs or anything else for that matter...loosing lots of stuff. When I get on the Internet all holiness breaks loose cause I can have 20 screens open at a time, going from one topic to another, jotting down notes incessantly. I really thought I was crazy until I was diagnosed. I was 39 when diagnosed. My daughter has been diagnosed as well. She is 16 and I'm so glad that she won't have to go thru her life thinking she is "less than" because of this condition. I recommend this website: Medical Information. Lots of information here, including symptoms, a screener, etc. Also search for "ADHD" at these other sites: Mayo Clinic and Merck. Frustration, frustration and more frustration! I can't seem to finish anything. Even if I make a list to remind myself I lose the list or forget to take it to the store. I have ideas racing through my head and I am very ambitious, but never accomplish much. I then get depressed and feel hopeless When I was in grade school, I was always running around, even when my teachers forced me to sit down. I was always causing trouble, constantly forgetting to complete and hand in assignments, always daydreaming, and there wasn't a single week that went by without me staying behind for punishment. I had no friends, and my classmates all made fun of me, calling me "the different/naughty kid", and due to my ADHD, I had a very short fuse and always got into fights, getting me into deeper trouble. Now, in High school I switched from Ritalin to Concerta, a slow release medication which works wonders. I have better organization, have plenty of friends and a better grip on my emotions. However, I do occasionally drift off, and my short fuse does go off sometimes (the subject of my annoyance or frustration is usually a slightly annoying girl that has a slightly annoying crush on me) , but I try my best. Hyper-focus: ADD is less a deficiency of attention than the inability to regulate one's attention mechanism. This is discussed in the book "Driven to Distraction", which I read per my doctor's recommendation. The book describes one almost contradictory symptom of ADD called hyper-focus. It is when one focuses on some task or item of interest to the degree of forgetting everything else going on. It tends to be a very enjoyable state of mind, losing yourself in some enjoyable activity so to speak. The ability to hyper-focus (without stimulant medications) is one of the distinguishing traits of ADD or ADHD. Typically this symptom is present in most people with ADD, myself included. The problem is it tends to occur at random or at least with little conscious control. Whereas having the ability to switch this on and off at will would make for much less of the disaster area (speaking for myself only) that ADHD causes. It would be unusual for an adult to suddenly get Attention Deficit Disorder as it is usually something that happens in childhood and carries through to adulthood. Adults with ADD / ADHD struggle daily with self-regulation, regulating their attention, regulating their impulses in talking and action, and regulating their emotions. But this condition needs to be diagnosed by a doctor as there are other disorders that have similar symptoms you get hyper You are extremely hyper all the time, get distracted really easily, and like to talk ALOT. Those are the basic symptoms of ADHD.
How can you tell if someone is a pathological liar?
Pathological lying Pathological lying, also known as mythomania and pseudologia fantastica, is the chronic behavior of compulsive or habitual lying. Unlike telling the occasional white lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings or getting in trouble, a pathological liar seems to lie for no apparent reason. This can make it frustrating or hard to know what to do if you believe you’ve met one. Though pathological lying has been recognized for more than a century, there’s not yet a clear universal definition of the condition. Some pathological lying may result from a mental condition, such as antisocial personality disorder (sometimes called sociopathy), while others appear to have no medical reason for the behavior.
Asked in Mental Health, Medication and Drugs, Adderall
What will ADHD medicine do to you if you don't have ADHD?
It will give the effect of being under the influence of Amphetamine, also known as speed. I recommend you do not attempt an ADHD medication if not diagnosed with it by a Licensed professional. Part two: Not only that, but you may become anemic and dramatically underweight, can approach death as a small child, and become depressed (personal experience from improper diagnosis of asperger's). I have adult ADHD and I once had a roommate that did a ridiculous thing. She did a self-diagnosis and determined that she had ADHD. She stole around twenty of my Ritalin from the cabinet that I place my medication in. She left to go camping and decided that she would take the amount that had been prescribed by my doctor for me. Well, to make a long story short, she ended up in the emergency room. She started to display symptoms of a heart attack. I strongly advise individuals that think that they might have ADHD to consult with a specialist that will make a well researched diagnosis. I believe some people out there "wish" they had ADHD. I will be fifty one in a couple of weeks and have had ADHD every since I can remember. Having ADHD presents many challenges in a person's life. Individuals have to learn compensatory skills to overcome many of the obstacles that they face. I have encountered many "normal" people who greatly misunderstand me. I have even been called "weird" by neighbors, friends, and colleagues. Despite, all of this, I went to college. I have a Bachelors in Science (Magna cum Laude) and a Masters of Education (Summa cum Laude) degree in the field of special education. I taught severely disturbed children for twenty-eight years. I have retired from teaching and am currently enrolled in a Solar Photovoltaic program. Whenever I become discouraged I think about a quote that Montel Williams made at the beginning of his career: "Believe to Achieve." So in short, if you're not diagnosed with ADHD, there's no reason to take such medication.
Asked in Mental Health
How does complete isolation affect mental health?
COMPLETE isolation is very harmful to mental health, there are thousands of studies which ALL (and that is quite unique in psychology!) agree that is a very harmful adn unwise to do it. Everyone has their own levels of socialising (ex. extroverst Vs. introverts) but everyone need the human company BUT total isolation is VERY HARMFUL. IT'S VITAL FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH! If you make yourself DO IT then don't!! People who's been a long period of time isolated (ex. 2 or 3 years) then afterwards tend not to cope with social gatherings (which this affects jobs, family, love life, sex life, your children etc) and also may cause severe mental illness, if you are in a very extreme isolation OR you are mentally prone to mental illness,- and trust me you don't want that!! (EX. paranoid/schizoid/schizotypal personality disorder). (BUT - If you are like this, (ex. not wanting any social gatherings or avoiding them) then I strongly recommed to see a psychologist (i know they are not the solution - but it's the best we've got!)! THANK YOU! have a nice day...
Asked in Miscellaneous, Mental Health, Self-Defense
How do you not freeze up in a fight?
Practice Fighting with your friends, use pads. Study various fighting arts such as Jujitsu, atemi waza, etc., as well as some of the more modern teachers of street fighting tactics and techniques, and incorporate from whatever you study only that which is useful to you. For example, if you're not very strong on kicking techniques or joint locking techniques then do not incorporate them. You want simple, easy to use tactics and techniques that are applicable to a wide variety of different situations that do not take years of practice to master. When you are confident that you are capable of utilizing what you have learned and practiced, instead of letting the thought of what an assailant might do to you cause you to freeze up, rather, concentrate and focus on what you are going to do to him/her. Also, don't give your game away, make the assailant think that you're afraid, help build his ego so that he may relax and slightly let down his guard, then, when he least expects it explode into action. But the best advice is do not put yourself purposely into situations or environments where you might be vulnerable to attack or ambush in the first place. Addition: Here is a link that will tell you the effects of high stress self-defense situations on performance, and how to help counteract them.
Asked in Mental Health, ADD-ADHD
What will ADHD medication do to a person without ADHD?
It varies on the person, but it will most likely make you much more focused on things, curve your appetite, and cause insomnia It will give the effect of being under the influence of Amphetamine, also known as speed. I recommend you do no attempt an ADHD medication if not diagnosed with it by a Licensed professional. Second answer: Not only that, but you may become anemic and dramatically underweight, approach death as a small child, and become depressed. (personal experience from improper diagnosis of asperger's) Additional Information ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyper Active Disorder) is a real disorder that has become a scape goat for many people to explain their child's behavior in class (or at home, etc.) and therefore has gotten many children medicated for just being kids. You should know that as well as the aforementioned physical side effects ADHD medications mess with the chemicals in your brain, and that is not pleasant. You should only give medication to someone that has been tested by a qualified professional and may just need to accept that your child is normal.
Asked in Mental Health, ADD-ADHD
Is there an ADHD test?
ADHD Test An objective physiological measure of ADHD has been elusive. However, research by Jason Alster MSc has shown that when an ADD person tries to sit still , do a boring task, or concentrate- they actually enter stress as measured by electro dermal activity. This marker is positive in the majority of ADD clients tested. Then GSR biofeedback may be used to improve the stress result. A protocol using this valid objective physiological marker has just been published in a video- Guide for GSR Biofeedback Techniques For The Natural ADHD Practitioner. A reliable diagnosis of ADHD can be made with well-tested diagnostic interview methods. Diagnosis is based on history and visible behaviors in the child's normal environment. A doctor making a diagnosis should ask for input from the child, parents, teachers, and other health care providers. The doctor will collect information on a thorough history about the symptoms, and on the medical, developmental, school, psychosocial, and family histories. He or she also will consider other causes for the problem, and review other conditions that could be present. It is helpful to find out what has prompted the request for evaluation and how the problems had been approached in the past. At this time, there is no single test for ADHD. This is not unique to ADHD, but applies to most psychiatric disorders. Research on brain imaging has shown that the brains of children with ADHD differ from those of children without the disorder. Several brain regions and structures in children with ADHD tend to be smaller. Overall brain size is generally 5% smaller in affected children than in children without ADHD. While this average difference is seen over and over, it is too small to be used alone in making the diagnosis of ADHD in a particular person. Also, there appears to be a link between a person's ability to pay continued attention and the amount of their brain activity. In people with ADHD, the brain areas that control attention show to be less active. This suggests that lower levels of activity in some parts of the brain may be related to problems in sustaining attention. The diagnosis of ADHD in the preschool child is possible, but can be difficult and should be made cautiously by experts well trained in childhood neurobehavioral disorders. Developmental problems, especially language delays, and adjustment problems can sometimes look like ADHD. Treatment should focus on placing the child in a structured preschool with parent training and support. Stimulants can reduce difficult behavior and improve mother-child interactions, but they usually are saved for severe cases, or when a child is unresponsive to environmental or behavioral interventions. Well when I was younger about 8 years old I was told that I could have ADD and I think I do Im 16 years old now and I just wanted to know is their a test I can take to see if I really do have ADD? CHADD has a great website with information and checklists available to print. These can be completed by parents, friends, teachers and others close to you to help determine whether you should seek treatment. ADHD adults are notoriously poor self observers so make sure that you have others give you their objective opinion. The AMENS clinic has an online test that is free and will tell you the percentage of possibility that you have ADHD as well as many co-morbid conditions. The best resource I can suggest is the book "Driven to Distraction" in which the symptoms are described in great detail. You should have a pretty good idea upon completion whether or not you could have ADD/ADHD. There are attention span tests that can and should be administered by a licensed professional once there is a reasonable assumption that you have ADHD. These, I know through experience, are not available in every city and are very expensive. Not one of the professionals in my area who offer this testing take any medical insurance and many policies will not cover this type of diagnostic exam. My advice would be to have your family doctor confirm the possibility before setting up the testing. We all have some ADHD symptoms, there is a big difference in behaviors that "can't" be controlled and "won't" be controlled. There are two tests at amenclinic.com The first one, a short list, is general, but resembles what a psychiatrist would use. The second is longer, and more specific, and pops you into one of five Types. However, I took the test, 3 months apart, and ended up on two different categories. However, both categories where basically ADHD/WO (without H). Currently, only 3 categories are accepted, but people are pressing for 5. Diagnosis is largely Behavioral Observation. It is very subjective, when doing self evaluation. Brain SPECT Imaging may, in the future, provide objective evaluation, especially if it becomes as affordable as mammograms. But since ADD does not cause death or disability, there may not be sufficient demand to lower those costs. Some psychiatrists prefer to try low dosages of the common medications, before labelling someone with ADD/ADHD. This leaves other options open, and helps children and adults avoid the negative stigma, associated with "mental problem" societal stereotyping. There is no one recognized test but there are some diagnostic tools: There are several types of questionnaires depending on the age of the patient Self-report questionnaires have certain advantages and limitations. They are quick, inexpensive, and easy to score. One of the dangers is that people may fill them out as they want to be perceived. For example, some people mark all of the symptoms as a frequent problem, in essence saying, "I'm glad to have a problem so that I can get help, be sick, or have an excuse for the problems I have." Usually a questionnaire from several sources to describe behavior of the patient is desirable.This questionnaire is a valuable tool to help determine if there are problems in the prefrontal cortex, anterior cingulate gyrus, basal ganglia, temporal lobes or deep limbic system...These areas determine focus, impulsivity and behavior...................................................................... BRAIN SPECT IMAGING and EEG's are also used for measuring abnormal activity in the brain..these are fairly new and should be used in conjunction with other test. There are several older test that were once used for testing such as the Tova. Other ADD diagnostic tools are test that assigns children special "continuous performance tasks" (CPTs) and Gordon Diagnostic System (GDS). It would be more than rare to be given anything other than a questionnaire and an interview before being diagnosed....ADD is a big business...It is much harder to be tested and declared normal (whatever that is)...................................................................... if you go to your normal doctor and you really think there is a problem they will set you up with a specalist to take certain tests. I had this done many years ago so I can't say if there is anything new out but that is how I found out. I think you got a little more info here than you were expecting:) Basically, if you believe you might have it and you want to be tested for it, either talk to a school counselor or your physician or you could even make an appointment with a psychiatrist, and they can help you. A counselor or a physician should be able to set you up with someone who can evaluate your behavior and performance (usually by having you take some timed and untimed logic and puzzle tests) and asking you a bunch of questions. Psychiatrists can usually do the evaluation themselves, but if you make an appointment with one you have to make sure they are the kind that deal w/ young people and disorders like Attention Deficit. There are numerous rating scales which are used to diagnose adhd, although these would only be used if the symptoms set out in the DSM IV were evident to begin with THE SHORT ANSWER: NO. Experienced doctors, neurologists, etc...use various lists of behaviors that suggest ADD/ADHD and compare the child/adult to the many "typical" or "target" behaviors. They use their own observations, anecdotal reports, parents or self observations and other objective information from school personnel, etc... If the person being evaluated exhibits a high percentage of the "target behaviors", then the evaluator will classify the person as having ADD/ADHD. There is no "test" or difinitive "diagnosis" per se.
Asked in Mental Health, ADD-ADHD
How do you know if you have ADHD?
basically ADHD is hyperactivity like you can easily get distracted but I would not advise you to take any pills because that can only last for a little while and its also when you are very talkative i would know because i have it its not easy to live with but you'll soon understand it was meant fir the best. You can go visit a doctor who can help you when trying to find out if you have ADHD. The best way to find a reliable doctor is by going to www.YourCity.MD. There are patient testimonials, doctor ratings, and much more. I really suggest it! (I helped your grammar...it was a little off.)
Asked in Science, Mental Health, IQ
Where can you take the WAIS IV IQ test for free?
WAIS-IV stands for Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale-4th Edition. It a clinician administered test--i.e. it cannot be taken online. The test is only sold to clinicians--licensed psychologists--who are trained to use it. You need to see a psychologist to get it done. Sometimes you can get a free assessment at a university clinic with a Ph.D. program in clinical psychology. However, if you walk in and simply request an IQ test, your request might be declined, just like you might be refused and MRI if you walked into a neurologist's office and asked for one. More often than not, the psychologist will inquire as to why you want the test. In fact, it would probably be a violation of professional ethics to not discuss your history and presenting problems before tests are given.
Can a spouse be accused of stalking?
Yes, they can depending on the circumstances. ********* If the person being harassed or followed is placed in fear that the stalker intends to injure the person, another person, or property of the person or of another person, then yes a spouse could be accused of stalking. The feeling of fear must be one that a reasonable person in the same situation would experience under all the circumstances. In some states there is also a requirement that the person accused of stalking knew or should have known that his/her actions were likely to cause fear in the "victim".
Asked in Health, Mental Health, Narcissism, Psychology
Are all Narcissists pathological liars?
Pathological lying is one of the hallmark characteristics of a narcissist. They lie out of their need to manipulate and control. They must lie in order to create their false "reality" about themselves that they project out to the world. They lie to bolster their grandiosity and inflate their accomplishments. Lying is the most common complaint of people who have a narcissist in their life. Following are some comments from contributors: Opinion Lying compulsively is not a disease or even an abnormality, which are the definitions of pathological in the dictionary. Lying is a habit of behaviour. If this habit has been advantageous in the past it will be repeated. After being repeated many times it will become the standard and default response. This is why it is attractive and charming people become narcissistic. Other people are usually less successful with lies as children and so never form the habit. Habits can be changed, lying is not addictive such as smoking and so to say that this behaviour can't change is the wrong conclusion. That said it will usually take some real understanding to bring a person with NPD to a place of trust in their family to be able to drop the lies and see that other behaviour is more rewarding. Accountability is the key, but failure to meet obligations should been dealt with justly. Threatening to abandon and isolate a person because they have simply never been taught how to meet these standards is unjust. A child who has never been taught with patience to tell the truth will remain a liar until someone who the narcissist looks up to and respects takes on this duty. Kim Cooper author of "Back from the Looking Glass" Living with the personality disorder that causes abuse Opinion Yes. They promise you the world then once they see your hopes up they tear the rug out from under. And if that isnt bad enough then they proceed to deny what they did and/or said and make you feel like the crazy one. The narcissist invents and then projects to others a FALSE Self. So, his entire existence is founded on an all-pervasive lie. The narcissist does his damnedest to avoid intimacy. He constantly lies about every aspect of his life: his self, his history, his vocations and avocations, and his emotions. This false data guarantee his informative lead, or "advantage" in a relationship. It yields an active state of disintimisation. It casts a pall of cover up, separateness, asymmetry and mystery over the narcissist's relationships. The narcissist lies even in therapy. He obscures the truth by using "psycho-babble", or a professional lingo. It makes him feel that he "belongs", that he is a "Renaissance man". By demonstrating his control of several professional jargons he almost proves (to himself) that he is superhuman. In therapy, this has the effect of "objectifying" and emotionally detachment. Opinion Certainly. I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 years. My poor soul will lie when proof is in front of his face. Opinion I think the N's perception of a lie is different from ours. A lie is not "bad" to a narcissist because it gets him what he wants. Opinion I have just ended a 5 year relationship with a narcissist and I can say this one was pathological. It is the most incredible phenomenon! For the first few years, I thought I was crazy or there was something wrong with my memory. He would re-write the very same event that we both experienced. It is my belief that he actually believed his lies, because that was the only way he could cope with life. He seemed genuinely convinced that his lies were the truth. It is mind boggling! I have changed all phone numbers and e-mail in an attempt to stay away from this man. I am in the process of moving. My advice to anyone involved with a narcissist, is to get out as fast as you can! It has been my experience that you cannot believe what this person tells you, even if they are crying and swearing to God. It is a very sad thing to watch ... but protect yourself! Opinion All the N's I have met are liars and masters at the art of deception. Just remember they always round numbers up or down to make themselves look good, or to make others look bad. They are the people at work, who say, "so-n-so is always late." Note the word "always". They don't keep accurate records and condem people without facts and evidence. Most people will make double sure before hurting someone's reputation or livelihood. Not narcissist. Usually, in Narcisstic language, "always" means "once." They actually think they can brainwash people. If they say the same thing over and over, they think you will eventually adopt it as truth. They rewrite history this way. Opinion My ex was so bad that he would look me in the eyes and tell me he loves me, and the next day I was gone. He did anything and everything to get what he wanted. Lying to me, about me, and he would come up with the most outrageous lies about me and people would believe these lies, why I don't know. He would be so incredibly arrogant while lying as well, as if he was the only one smart enough in his world to know he was lying and if he was caught in one he'd never admit it. I've noticed they live in a fantasy world of their own making and every lie that they tell only adds to it, and to them it's ok. Opinion I am in the unfortunate situation of being in love with as well as married to a narcissist. We have been married for less than a year and it has been a fairly incredible constant roller coaster of emtions, anger and confusion. I have battled with leaving but know that I do love this person and continue to pray that they will get the true help that they, themselves, have agreed to get. Others who see from a distance what is taking place are warning me to get out while I can and to heed safety measures when dealing with someone of this caliber. I am so confused because as any of you reading this will know... THEY ARE VERY convincing when they want to be. They tell you they love you and will do anything to keep you but then the very next day they are right back with their sick lies and unstable behavior. How can you ever trust or believe in this person? Opinion How can anyone who has a false front not lie? Will they lie to themselves and believe it? Yes, they are pathological liars. Thank you for this website. I was nearly destroyed by all the lies and the confusion. Lies add power to the narcissist...keeping you in the dark...to confused to run. Opinion Yes, blackmailing, back-stabbing, manipulating, deceiving and lying seem to be the core personlaity traits that I've noticed in my experience w/ a NPD individual. All become intertwined- for example they will cover up a lie w/ a maniupulation or manipulate to cover up a lie. To say they have the ethics of a roach would be a tremendous insult to all roaches. Opinion I have just come to terms with my daughter. She is now a complete Pathological Liar or has Antisocial Personality Disorder or is Narcissist. I can realize this and have to come to terms with it. I know all three titles are probably stages of the same. I think it is genetic and complusive and addictive. Opinion They are spin doctors. They live only in the present. Everything is about their image, and maintaining their image EACH MINUTE. They will make stuff up on the spot. The next day, they say the complete opposite. If everyone in the room is saying, "we like president Bush" the narcissist will take inventory and go with the majority of people. (the majority are the "winners" and they must side with the numbers/winners). The very next day, they could be in a room where most people like Hillary Clinton. Again, the narcissist will go with the status quo. It's hard to figure out where they really stand, and they don't seem to know. Their ethics are like this too. One day they have high morals, the next day they are rationalizing and going against one of their proclaimed rules. They picks what sounds best to suit their needs for the moment. Words, sentences, are just ornaments or jewelry, and they always pick out a different word-robe for the day. They also lie over the smallest detail that wasn't matter. They act like they got caught with their hand in the cookie jar, make up lies, when all you did was ask them a question. They always act like they are on trial and are always in self defense mode (this makes them sound paranoid). If you ask, "I need a pen. Have you seen the pen?" A narcissist would reply "I didn't take it." It makes communicating with them somewhat of a strain. They seem to miss the point and always on the look out for personal attacks, then already lie to cover their arse when they don't even need to. Opinion My narcissist smirks when he lies. He knows he's been detected but he thinks he's real cute. This cuteness is to sugarcoat the lie. Mine is really quite serious so when I see that grin I know I've just heard a whopper. Opinion I was married to a narcissist for 23 years and will tell you that she lied constantly. In the beginning i thought she just like to embellish and excused it, but it never changed. As she got older, it got worse because she needed to lie to protect her image. We had met in college but she refused to admit that to anyone because she thought they could infer how old she was (like they even cared). She even lied to our children about how old she was and how we met. They saw right threw it, but if they challenged her, she went into a rage unlike any i have ever seen. I have been separated from her for 4 years, but because we have shared custody of the children, the damaging lies continue. By their nature, the narcissist's are unable to clearly look into themselves and therefore will never be able to heal. For the woman who is in love with one, my advice would be to get out while you can. I loved my wife for 23 years but it made no difference. I am very thankful that i am away from her daily torture and am glad that my children are only subjected to her manipulations half of the time. Opinion Yes narcissists are pathological liars. They will lie about everything, and do anything to keep their lies alive. I know a narcissist. She was and still is to this day my best friend. She has run away from everything that she believes is unpleasant in her current life and emerges somewhere else with a new life full of lies and half truths. She has many children most of which she has put up for adoption all over the west coast, with some kind of sob story about why she is doing what she is doing. She has two children who live with her parents on the east coast that she just up and left behind one day when she decided that she didn't want to be a 24 year old mother of two, but a 19 year old college student. She has a lot of self-hate, and in order to romantize herself and her background she makes up stories. She goes online and lies to meet men, despite the fact that she told me that she was married a few months ago. I don't know if she is telling me the truth or telling me things that she thinks I will envy or find fascinating. Eventhough she is intelligent and creative, she is so caught up in her fantasy world that I am afraid that one day she will snap and will no longer be able to tell the difference between the real world and the fantasy one that she has created Opinion I lied to my soon to be ex-wife, nothing near as bad as some of the things, some of you went through. But I did lie. I lied because i thought my wife was so much better than me, and i just wanted her to think I was good enought. I just couldn't beleive that someone would like me for me. And now I've lost her,and this I except. I understand (I think) how she feels, and I agree, that I made a massive unforgivable mistake. I guess what I want to say is don't blame yourself if you are a victim of someone liying to you. You may feel like it but you are NOT a physcho magnet. And you do deserve better. I lost the greatest thing in my life, my other half. Because I hate myself. I'm getting better, I hope. At least I have relized my mistakes, and I know I have a long road ahead of me before I can hope to called healthy. And it will be a long time before I will be able to trust myself to be in another realtionship. I can't do this to another person, I've hurt a truly beautiful soul, and I wish I could fix the damage i did to my wife, I wish I could just erase the memory of me from her mind.... But I can't this is her cross to carry, and I placed it on her shoulder. Opinion Do I Lie? In short yes. Nothing new after reading this webpage. Manipulating people..Yes...Crying out for attention...Yes...Making everything more melodramatic than it is..yes... Are people confused by my stories? Yes Do I like what I do? No Am i trying to do anything to stop it? Constantly Do people like me have low self esteem ? Yes Do I always premeditate the lie ? No Is it something that I can control ? No as it happens , with a life of its own.. it just springs from some inner reach until you cant stop. If someone is reading this they are sceptical of it...but that is how it seems to me What am i doint to stop it ? Seeing a therapist. IS it helping ? I dont know.... ( this bit is honest...) What is the biggest whopper that I have told.? I have been diagnosed by cancer and am undergoing treatment and its cured and how brave I was.... Is there a common pattern? Yes like everyone else on this website...always done to make myself look good ......better...than everyone..get the attention to me....manipulate things to suit me.... I could keep going more and more.... All I see is how bad I am ...I already know that...I need help. Is this thing that makes me do this curable....should I stop trying....and at least be happy for sometime...with the lies....I need to know that there is someone who used to do this and has been able to get out of donig this.. I wish I had something physical wrong with me as tha could be fixed.....but this ...all i see is people like me hurting others and everyone saying get out of a reltionship with a Liar...But is there a place that will help me become a decent person...or maybe I should just give up now. Opinion They are extremely talented in lying, however I should not say talented. This is not something to be proud of, what has happened is they have learned from early on that they can keep getting away with it and has made them feel "talented" in yet another aspect of their life (i.e. besides being beautiful, smart, etc.). Their lies are so convincing that you will never figure it out until you are at this stage of your research on narcissism - reading forums. Always remember one thing: IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT, you just happened to be a victim of a very uncommon and unforunately - in my opinion - a well researched disorder that needs to be far more publicized to the general public. Opinion Unfortunately for the N him/herself and others, yes, they are liars. To others and also to themselves. Even as a teenager I felt that my father was somehow 'living a lie', had such an inpenetrable facade to the outside world, a facade to protect himself from further emotional pain. I am 50 yrs old, in 2006, and when my mother died when I was 16 years old asked my father how she died. He replied that he didn't know. He has never ever mentioned her again. Not once - as if she'd never existed! A few years ago I asked him why he told me that he didn't know how/why my mother had died. He replied that he thought that "it was not important to you". He became so outraged and affronted when I tried to challenge him about this and while wildly flailing his arms with a deep red face and booming voice shouted "I never lie!" He feins ignorance about certain events, denies saying (critical/belittling) things to me or invents responses on the spot which are plainly false and expects me to believe him. However, he would never admit such things. Opinion My experience is that they lie without thought, morning noon and night. They lie for no reason and lie really really fast when under the gun, busted and about to be unveiled. Still.... they don't put much thought into the lies. When you start asking questions about the hasty cover lies.... they begin backpeddling and saying they never said that. You may even question whether you heard it or not. They formulate better lies then....and may recruit co workers or friends to swear for them. They may also spice them up with accusations that you are disrespectful and unappreciative. They've been feeding all their friends and family versions of you and themselves so don't be too shocked when people you go to for help, tell you that you and some made up idiot habit of yours is the "real problem." Continue to expect it when, in the face of facts.... they begin telling you how sorry N feels and you should consider giving the relationship another chance, at least for the children's sake.
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What is a clinical disorder?
A Clinical Disorder is a series or group of behaviors that equal or match a list of expected behaviors listed in, "The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is the standard classification of mental disorders used by mental health professionals in the United States. It is intended to be applicable in a wide array of contexts and used by clinicians and researchers of many different orientations (e.g., biological, psychodynamic, cognitive, behavioral, interpersonal, family/systems). DSM-IV has been designed for use across settings, inpatient, outpatient, partial hospital, consultation-liaison, clinic, private practice, and primary care, and with community populations and by psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, nurses, occupational and rehabilitation therapists, counselors, and other health and mental health professionals" The following is a list of Clinical Disorders from the DSM: Anxiety ( Panic Attacks, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, OCD, GAD, Phobias, Agoraphobia ... ) Adjustment Dissociative Eating ( Anorexia Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa ... ) Factitious Impulse-Control Mood ( Depression, Manic-Depression now called Bipolar I / II, Dysthymic, Cyclothymic ... ) Schizophrenia / Psychotic Sleep Sexual / Gender Identity Somatoform Substance-Related
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What is the maximum daily dose for amitriptyline?
Asked in Mental Health, IQ
Where can you get a professional IQ test?
Psychologists and neuropsychologists give IQ tests as part of the battery of tests they have you do. There are also places like Mensa that administer tests. But there's not really much of a reason for someone to have an IQ test. It doesn't mean much on its own and is pretty much useless in any day-to-day situation.
Asked in Mental Health, Peer Pressure
How can your family and peers influence your mental and emotional health?
Asked in Mental Health, Psychology
How do you drive yourself crazy?
There are many, many ways to drive yourself clinically insane. One way is to infect yourself with Treponema pallidum, the causative agent for Syphilis. Another way is to take mind-altering drugs over a long period of time, such as psilocybin, Baeocystin, lysergic acid diethylamide, or even methamphetamines. Yet another way is to intentionally be exposed to a known vector of rabies. Try going to a park and looking for animals that display odd behavior- that fox that's trying to do back flips off a bench could be a worthy candidate. Once infected, the rabies virus will make its way to your brain stem, and in a matter of weeks, you, TOO can be mentally insane! A final way is to dive for gold deep in the Amazon rain forest. One, you'll go insane because there isn't much there, and 2.), you'll go insane because of the high mercury levels in the water from the mercury used to separate silt from gold. BUT WAIT!! Is there a way that I can force myself over the edge without injuring myself with external means? YES! You Too can become insane in three easy steps! 1.) Study astrophysics, strange particle physics or the most dangerous, the math of infinity. 2.) Try to explain the workings of the universe or the levels of infinity by yourself. 3.) Sit back and (relax?) while your brain convinces itself that it is correct when it actually isn't. This easy Three Step Process can take a while to complete, as your brain needs time to ferment and fester on certain discreet ideas or theorems. BUT IT WORKS! Just read the following. Georg Cantor, notable German mathematician, attempted to discover an infinite set theory or something of the sort. He proved himself correct, then incorrect usually on a monthly basis. His certainty of his calculations then his inevitable proof of the opposite gradually led himself to insanity. Ludwig Boltzmann, Austrian physicist and mathematician, was driven insane by the following: S=K.log W. Yes, one of the greatest minds history succumbed to utter madness by an equation to determine amount of entropy in S. As a conclusion, the best way to drive oneself insane is to infect oneself with a mind-altering pathogen (Rabies, Syphilis, Prion etc.), take psychotoxic chemicals repeatedly (try to get some tainted with foreign chemicals- they might make you rip your face off because it feels to darn big), or try to explain the universe in a simple, yet elegant equation. I most definitely recommend the latter, seeing as the previous options will leave you depraved, quite silly, and ultimately dead and gone. And who knows? Maybe in the process of trying to go insane, you'll explain the universe. It's definitely worth a shot.
Asked in Mental Health, Smoking and Tobacco Use
What is a natural property of nicotine?
Nicotine is an allelochemical. All plants naturally produce scores of these chemicals to protect them from herbivores, pests or contesting plants, to grow and to reproduce. Very little research has been made into allelochemicals (apart from nicotine!) but what little has been performed suggests that many could be toxic (in the appropriate dose) or even carcinogenic. Nicotine is produced by the tobacco plant to repel pests. Nicotinic pesticide is approved for organic farming use. Additionally, the pharmaceutical industry is trialling nicotine-based drugs to treat a range of medical conditions from obesity, dementia and psychotic disorders, as well as for pain relief. P.S. Nicotinic acid is a byproduct of the oxidation (burning) of nicotine. It is also known as niacin and Vitamin B3.